I sent an e-mail out to close friends and family about a funny conversation I had with my daughter. Brianna will be 4 in September. Jeremy turned 2 in March. They are 19 months apart. Jeremy is in the process of being potty trained. He and his sister are both very curious about their anatomy; especially their genitals.
Brianna: Mommy, Jeremy has a penis just like Daddy.
Me: Yes, honey, that’s right.
Brianna: Mommy, but we have China’s.
Me: [throw head back & crack up] Uh, vaginas, Bree.
Brianna: Yeah, Mom, China’s.
Can you stop the laughter? I am telling you. So much fun to be a mom sometimes.
Anyway, so I sent this e-mail out. I got a lot of responses back… mostly LOL’s and funny comments of things other people’s children have said about the same subject. Too cute! But I had this one friend… we’ll just say she’s a little prudish… and that’s ok. So she asked me all shocked expression and stuff how in the world my daughter learned that her brother has a penis and she has a vagina. Huh? I looked back at her all shocked expression (b/c she has kids) like… yours don’t know??
I have never called my sons penis anything other than a penis. Ok, well I take that back. I have called it a wee willy winky before. He’s peed on me. When he was a newborn. And I’d say he squirted mommy from his wee willy winky. I also did that when I washed him in the tub. He is ticklish. Majorly! So in order to get him to let me clean his penis I would say “time to clean your wee willy winky” and that would get him to allow me to do what I needed to do without the squirms and giggles. But aside from that I have always said the right words for the right body parts. A nose is a nose, toes are toes, a penis is a penis. Same for Brianna. She has a vagina. Mommy has one. Daddy and Jeremy don’t have them.
Is this shocking? I think not. But maybe some people don’t spell it out for their children. I suppose some think that talk isn’t age appropriate. I don’t know. But I have a feeling that if you, as a parent, avoid calling body parts what they truly are you are going to somehow damage your kids. Maybe not to the point of needing therapy, but confusing them or making them feel badly about their bodies is damage done. Am I wrong?
So Brianna is so excited for the new baby. I have this book that is amazing… “A Child is Born” with so many pictures of everything. Sex (not porn — it’s very clean and scientific — infrared), conception, implantation, growth of embryo into fetus, growth of fetus in stages, vaginal birth and c-section birth, in-vitro fertilization, breast feeding, you name it it’s there and in full color pictures. Brianna is looking at it right now. I think if she has a healthy understanding of the glorious creation of God’s that she will not be affected by it in a negative way. Or shocked. Or disturbed. Or confused.
Is this controversial?