This might get the fire started a little. Maybe? Maybe not.
I have a sidebar with blogs listed under the heading “blogs of fantabulousness”. I have each blog in my Google reader. I read them as they are updated. Sometimes I comment. Sometimes I don’t. But if a blog is updated I will read it that day.
I have other blogs in my Google reader that I check out daily too. They aren’t on the sidebar because they have either asked not to be or I forgot to add them. If I have forgotten to add your blog and I read it, agree with it, and don’t mind “endorsing” it please remind me.
Don’t ask me to add your blog unless you read this: if your blog is offensive to me I won’t put it on there and I won’t read it. I also don’t read blogs that are only there to make money off of the ads. That drives me bonkers and I feel used. That’s the way I roll.
Over the past 9+ months since I started blogging I have met some great people. I’ve also met a jerk or two. I’ve been lied to (I not only quit the blogs of those involved, I also removed them from my sidebar) and someone tried to scam me (I’m not easily scammed, by the way — I’ve simply been on the internet waaay-haaay too long to fall for it). I’ve seen some drama. I’ve learned a lot about different causes (cystic fibrosis, cancer, premature babies, the global food crisis, assorted missions, etc). I’ve laughed, cried, about threw my computer through the window, been touched, and all kinds of different emotions.
I have had to moderate comments. Then I remove moderation. Then I’ve had to put it back on. Then I remove it again. There has been some drama right here. Some of it has embarrassed me beyond belief. Other times it has just flat burned me up until steam has come out of my ears. Other times the moderation has been in the interest of protecting others who have made comments from their hearts based on their beliefs. I’ve edited comments (for grammar) and sometimes I’ve deleted them entirely.
There is a group that asked me to please put them on my sidebar under the blog heading. They promised a little “link love”. I did as asked even though I’d never heard of them before. Do you think I don’t check on these things? It’s not a site I frequently go to. It’s not even that interesting. Yet I shared a little “love”. However, they have removed my link from their site. When did this happen? Who cares? You guessed it — they are gone now. I didn’t really like their site anyway. Too secular for me. Anyone who claims to be a Christian site and wishes Madonna a Happy 50th Birthday is far too secular for my taste. I mean, didn’t she come out on stage strapped to a mirrored cross in an effort to tick off Catholics in Ireland? Amongst other shenanigans — burning crosses, supporting abortion rights, sexually explicit shows, and foul language. I shouldn’t judge, but come on. How can you call yourself a Christian site when you recognize someone who is so incredibly NOT a Christian — anti-Christian even. Hmmm??? Anyway, they are gone.
And it’s not that I’m all that and a bag of chips either. I am cautious though. I write about some extremely personal things on here. I don’t play games with my honesty. I use this site for two main reasons: 1) to vent or journal or emotionalize myself so I benefit from it — you can call it writing therapy. 2) to hopefully live out my faith in front of others; to be honest about my walk with Christ; to attract fence riders and show them that Christians are normal everyday folks and not fanatical; to be real and authentic and vulnerable and human.
I like this blogging thing. I really do. But I don’t like the undermining that can go on around the internet. I don’t like pretenses. I don’t like jerks. I don’t like liars. No. And if I check your site and find you are involved in some of that crap — well, consider yourself removed.
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