This is unhealthy.
As a kid, I remember bashing the other team. I still joke about it now as an adult, but it’s a joke (No, I don’t really hate Michigan, folks. It’s just fun to have a rival). Back then, I was serious. I hated that team and it’s mascot. I hated the people who went to that team’s school. I hated the coach and all the staff too. Hate. Emotions of a teenager — illogical at best. “UA Sucks” I chanted from the stands and I meant it. Later, as an adult, I worked in UA, ate lunch in UA, drove through UA and I realized UA does not suck. It is quite beautiful. UA is a place I’d live in a heartbeat (if it was in a different climate). I love UA!!
I think I’m too far removed. And I like it that way.
I don’t do TV other than using it to entertain and educate my children. I’ll sit down to watch a medical show now and again to educate myself. I’ll watch a late night game with Rich just to spend time with him minus the kids. It’s a tool.
Because of this, I am not bombarded with the election. I haven’t seen the political ads. It’s a good thing. I can’t stand the smut that drives these campaigns to lower themselves to the level of teenagers in negative competition. It’s like glorified high school. Ick!!
There is this woman who goes to my church. She’s in my Thursday night Bible study. This past week was our first one. She almost immediately started talking about the election. I was sitting right next to her and I totally shut the heck down. Election talk at a Bible study? How inappropriate to me. Plus, she acted as if everyone in the room is voting for her candidate of choice. Interesting. Thankfully the two women in charge successfully shut her up after four different tries. Ei Yi Yi!!
I remember competition in the work place. I remember working at one national jewelry chain and competing with the other popular retail jewelry chain down the mall. I remember coming in at a lower price to get the sale. I remember walking customers down to their store to compare quality, price, warranty, etc. and always (always) getting the sale. The employees of that store hated to see me coming with one of their potential customers. They knew they were about to kiss that sale goodbye. And they were right.
I remember working for a subcontractor who did work for the #1 builder in Columbus, Ohio. I also remember how tough the competition was to keep the contract and how easily low-balled we could get. My boss was forever canoodling with the big wigs at this builder in order to keep good relations. He bought them lunches, dinners, did stuff at their personal homes without charging them, took them golfing, and they took and took from him. He needed that contract. He fed, sheltered, and clothed his family with that contract. He paid his employees with that contract. It was everything to him. To lose it meant he could lose everything he had worked for.
I was also a licensed Realtor once. That is one competitive, back-biting industry. Too stressful. Too many Realtors competing for your clients. I couldn’t take it. My Dad is a Realtor and he has been taken advantage of time and again. He’s good at what he does, but he gets burned too and it is hard for me to take when I know it’s happening. My brother-in-law is a very successful Realtor. I have a friend whose husband is also a Realtor. It’s a tough job. It takes nerves of steel and perseverance. It takes nights and weekends and always being attached to your cell phone. I takes hours upon hours of work and sometimes deals fall through. It can be laced with negativity and deceit. Ugh!!
In the midst of this competition, there was much negativity. Negative talk among employees. Negative banter when the other company got a better deal or a better contract or a better client. Negative.
It’s not healthy.
I have heard that there are a lot of hospital politics. I hope, for the life of me, that when I become a nurse it won’t get to me. I hope I won’t get sucked in.
How much better would a person or company look if they took the high road every single time?
How many more customers would flock to buy their products if they refused to come down to that negative level of competition and just kept it above and beyond them to behave that way?
How many more votes would a candidate get if he or she absolutely refused to cut down the other candidate no matter how hateful the other candidate was?
What if we raised our expectations? What if we no longer tolerated the negative? What if we, ourselves, decided not to be negative? What impact would that have on our society that seems to thrive on negativity?
It’s a challenge. Especially for me. But I’m up for it. Anyone want to join me?
Let’s refuse to succumb to negative competition. Let’s refuse to cut others down even when we don’t agree or when we’re being attacked. Let’s turn the other cheek — let’s do it!
Who is with me?