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For Them to Carry On December 8, 2008

Filed under: Life... The Way I See It — candidchatter @ 6:33 am
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Dear Future In-Laws to My Child,

My husband and I have raised our kids to the best of our ability. We have brought them up in a loving environment which promotes self-expression and acceptance. We have encouraged them to become whoever they desire to become as long as they work hard and honor God. We have enabled them to receive the best education we could afford. We have taught them through our own actions to be generous people. We promise that your child is safe in our family and in a relationship with our child.

Our kids were taught not to judge a person based on their appearance. In fact, appearance received as much merit in our family as the length of someone’s eyelashes. It has been irrelevant. We have taught them to determine if a person is of proper character based on their actions alone. We have encouraged them to align themselves with people who have integrity.

Our kids were taught that hard work and hard practice are the ingredients for success.

Our kids were taught to love others regardless of how those people treated them. We have told them that it is ok not to like someone, but that they are still to be kind to that person.

Our kids grew up in an environment filled with outward affection and howling laughter. We hug, we kiss, we snuggle. We laugh, we crack up, we giggle. They are happy and content people. They have always been surrounded by love and acceptance.

Our kids were taught that getting an education is important to career success. We have told them throughout their lives, starting when they were toddlers, that they can be whatever they want to be as long as they do well in school and respect their teachers.

Our kids were taught that hospitality is part of friendship. Our home has always been a place to celebrate life whether through birthdays, holidays, or just because we can days. We open our doors and welcome groups of people to share meals and good times with us. They have many friends and our home has served as a safe place for them their whole lives.

Our kids were taught to have compassion for the needy people of this world. They know how fortunate they are and desire to share their good fortune with others. They are not selfish or self-centered. They are generous and caring.

Our kids were taught from birth to present time about Jesus Christ. They have received Christian educations. They have been involved in many youth activities geered towards shepherding their hearts so that they would long to serve God all of their lives. They started memorizing Bible verses at a very young age and have cultivated personal relationships with Christ their Savior. Of all the things we have taught our kids, this is the most important to us.

Our kids are not perfect. But they are good enough.

Rest assured that your child has chosen a more than suitable spouse and we will do everything we can to be there for them whenever they need us.

Welcome to the family.

Heidi Reed

What would
you add?


7 Responses to “For Them to Carry On”

  1. Heidi: I think this about says it all. No doubt where you and your hubby stand. Is this a “just in case letter”?

    On another point: is the falling snow to rub it in for what we have seen over the past few days or wishful thinking on your part? Just curious. 🙂

  2. Heidi…take the letter, frame it…hold on to it…over the years, read back over it, tweak it as needed…this will mean a great deal to your children…and to their future spouse…

  3. Robin Says:

    I love this. As parents to adult kids I’ll agree with the comment above…this will be priceless one day.

  4. candidchatter Says:

    Bill: It’s a letter to constantly remind myself what kind of people I intend to raise. 🙂 The snow just showed up out of nowhere. WordPress upgraded their service and wahlah SNOW on my blogarific!

    Steve/Robin: I wrote this so I could keep it over the years. I have stuff like this stored on my computer or kept in safe places so that I can remember what kind of parent I intended to be and what direction I planned to go with my children. The goal – ultimately – is for them to carry on to their future spouses and children a love that comes from knowing and worshiping Christ. Fruits of the Spirit. 🙂

    Thanks for commenting.

  5. Lorna Says:

    That’s very nice Heidi. I agree with Steve and Robin that you should add to and tweak it over the years. It will be such a gift to hand over to them when they are ready to start their own families.

  6. Will_nottheactor Says:

    Ditto to Bill, Steve and Robin… very nice.

    Also, if you don’t let your kids read it, you can use it as a weapon – I’ve got a letter, and I’m not afraid to use it! 🙂

  7. Joe Blackmon Says:

    Oh, my daughter is not going to have in-laws. She’s not going to be able to date until she’s 35 or I’m dead—whichever comes first. 🙂

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