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Shooting for the Stars February 17, 2009

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Well I have to admit I never ever thought this would happen.

When I started my blog I had no idea what would become of it. I’m not the hippest thing to hit the internet, that’s for sure. But I have grown to really enjoy doing this — so much so that I would say blogging has become a cool hobby. It definitely provides me with the adult conversation I need throughout the day. And it costs ZERO dollars to run this show. Sure I need an internet provider, but I’d have that regardless. Rich and I are both internet junkies.


If you scan your little eyes over to the right you’ll notice my stats counter. I remember the days of getting excited over 60 hits in one day. Then I got excited the day I reached 100. Once I hit 300 per day I stopped mentioning it. I didn’t think my stats would ever top 300. But it has — every single day it goes way over 300 — even on weekends. I would tell you how many a day, but then I’d ruin the challenge (keep reading and you’ll see what I mean).

Fun. It’s so fun!

So as a thank you to all of my readers — new and seasoned — I have decided to run yet another contest. This time you can choose how to spend the dough. I can donate it to a worthy cause or buy you a gift card. Whichever you choose is totally fine with me.

The Rules:

  • You must guess the day and time that my stats counter will roll over 100,000 hits. Right now it sits pretty at a cool 90,200+. My blog has only been in operation a year and a couple months. So this is very exciting to me.
  • The gift amount is $25.00 and I must be able to pay for whatever (donation or gift card) online. I hate writing checks. I don’t even write checks to pay my bills. Everything in my life is as electronic as I can make it. It’s easier that way.
  • We (Rich and I) reserve the right to turn down the request. In other words, if the charity is something we oppose (like Planned Parenthood) or the gift card is for a subscription to Playboy magazine you can just flat out forget it. Not. Gonna. Happen.

Happy guessing!!


The Unveiling of The Secret November 10, 2008


You have waited with baited breath I am sure!!

Here’s the deal. Soles4Souls has launched an initiative through social media outlets to give away 50,000 pairs of shoes in 50 days. For more information about this click here.

What can you do?

Give up that Starbucks coffee for 4 days and donate instead. It seriously only costs $5 for TWO pairs of shoes. Five bux!! No shipping. No fees. No trips to the dreaded post office. Not even a stamp is involved. Nada. Giving up your Starbucks addiction for 4 days will donate 8 pairs of shoes!!

Who doesn’t have that? Heck, if you give up pizza night you could donate $15 and give 6 pairs of shoes. Right? Pack your lunch instead of buying a 12 inch Subway sub for $5 and you can give 2 pairs of shoes.


Count your loose change. Bet you have five dollars worth just in your couch.


Did you know…

  • It is estimated that Americans have 1.5 BILLION pairs of unworn shoes lying in their closets while over 300 MILLION children around the world have never owned a pair of shoes?

PLUS — there is a bonus for your gift. After 50,000 pairs of shoes have been donated, someone (with a guest of their choice) will be randomly selected to hand deliver the shoes they purchased to someone in need on one of Soles4Souls’ trips to Mexico!!!! Wow!!!!!

Rich and I already gave our donation. Now it’s your turn. Join me, Anne Jackson, and over 150 bloggers across the web in an effort to give shoes to those who desperately need them.

Then, after you’ve donated, come back here and help encourage others to participate. Leave a comment that you donated and brag about how SIMPLE it was to give.

Five dollars. What better gift — what cheaper gift — can you give this holiday season?

Want another bonus? Ok. You got it! If you readers collectively (as in group effort) donate $50 TODAY (Monday, November 10, 2008) and post your comment on my blog — Rich and I will MATCH the donation dollar for dollar up to $50. In other words, we will donate $50 in addition to the $50 that you have given. That means for your $5 we’ll give $5 so the donation becomes $10.

That’s just 10 people giving a $5 donation each. That’s MORE than doable on here!

So donate — comment (don’t forget to tell me how much you gave so I can keep track) — and then watch the ripple grow!!

Click here.
Then comment here.
Make a difference!!
Now go!!


No TV Means Out of the Loop April 2, 2008

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So I had no idea about anything about the little girl who committed suicide based on a practical joke that was played on her thru MySpace. I am serious when I say I do not watch TV. I don’t. Hate the thing except when it entertains my children while I am busy with something.

Megan Meier was 13. She presumably committed suicide after being dumped by a fictitious boyfriend who was actually the alleged creativity of 4 people, three of them being adults.

See, I don’t watch TV so I only get my news from the Fox News website. And I don’t check it every day b/c a lot of times they cover stories regarding child abuse cases. I can’t NOT click on those stories, so in order to keep my heart from bleeding straight out of my chest I try to avoid that site unless I am particularly strong that day. I clicked on it today and found a link to the Megan Meier story.

Well, since I know very little I don’t have much of a well-rounded or educated opinion. I believe what happened to that little girl is tragic. The 911 call from her mother, Tina, is heart-wrenching.

Anyway, one thing that an interviewer said struck me and stopped me cold. Her advice was to be careful what you write on the Internet because someone out there could be hanging on every word.

Hanging         on          every          word.

Do people really get that addicted to what other people are saying? I know some great blogs that I read on a daily basis. I know some average blogs that I’ve read before. I know some really bad ones that I’ve seen as well. I usually don’t revisit the ones that don’t catch my interest.

The thing is, when a private blog or social networking type thing is started it usually isn’t the intention of the person starting it to gain an audience. But when an audience starts to form it can be fun. Most of the time it seems the blog is formed as a way to keep in touch with family and friends. Also, to document a life event. Frequently, to be used as an outlet of sorts (my blog is this sort of thing). Sometimes, as an informational gathering place for like-minded people.

But for a person to become so addicted to another person’s life or words seems ridiculous to me. Unless you are 13 or 14 or 15 or 16 or even 19.

I think as bloggers we have to consider who might stop by our site. I tried just today to get some questions going. I thought it would be a cool attempt at getting to know my audience. Seems incredible to me that between 50 and 100 hits a day happen here and I am selling nothing. But I have a life and I talk about it and, for some people who can relate to me, this has become something they like or can share or can realize they are not alone in whatever they are going/have gone through. So I wanted to fish for comments only so I can see who YOU all are.

It didn’t work… so far. And it’s almost 3:00 pm. Guess that won’t be as fun as I had hoped it would be.

Anyway. I have had young people here. I remember one time a young girl posted a comment. It was several weeks (maybe months) ago and I was overwhelmed at her age. It made me take a step back (figuratively) and be responsible for my words and my ways. She had read my blog. I urgently fished through my brain trying to recall anything I may have said that was not “for her young eyes”. Ugh! Thankfully I couldn’t think of anything.

Bloggers have a responsibility if they are public (like mine). People ARE reading what we write. Some might be younger than we think.

Be careful what you say — someone might be hanging on every word. Or someone might be adopting YOUR attitudes because they aren’t sure of their own yet. Or someone might do what you’ve done because you made it look like it was so cool and fun.

Be careful. Be responsible. Be real, but be careful.

PS: This is as much a reminder for me as it is for anyone else.